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Regaining
Control Of Your Life!
You may already realize that smoking is closely
related to overeating, or eating incorrectly (as
well as taking drugs or drinking alcohol). A lot
of times a person will come in for private sessions
and admit that they have started smoking again
instead of overeating, or a more destructive habit.
Some people gain weight after quitting the cigarette
habit. In any case, cigarettes, food, or anything
else is not the problem. These habits are merely
symptoms of the problem, and are also the result
of self-medication. And like any medication, they
simply help to mask the true problem. In response
to stress and anxiety, people will use just about
anything to self-sooth. If you are hurting, you
will probably do whatever it takes to stop the
pain! In this case it happens to be emotional
pain. It makes sense that before you can make
changes in your life, you want to make sure you
do not fall back into old, destructive patterns,
and how that is done is by learning relaxation
techniques followed by positive affirmations;
in other words, by using hypnosis you will not
gain weight or start smoking because you have
learned how to relax. This is where the journey
begins. However, if you were to begin any trip
before you were prepared, you would be doomed
to failure. Personal change is no differant. Another
good analogy is painting or decorating. If you
want to paint a fairly clean or brand new wall,
all you would need to do is slap some paint on.
A wall in good condition would need no extra work.
A very damaged wall with lots of marks and holes
would need lots of work before you could start
painting. Just like that wall, before you can
make changes in yourself; quit destructive self-medication;
you need to eliminate negative thoughts. If you
don't get rid of the negative, the result will
be similar to a black mark that shows through
the paint. You can use the word "cancel" to remove
negative thoughts, and it usually works rather
well, but what if the negative has been around
for a long time? Just like that damaged wall,
it will take a little extra time and effort; but
everything that is worthwhile, is always worth
the effort! Without cloudy days, you couldn't
appreciate sunshine, right? However, you have
most likely seen enough cloudy days, and by now
you are really, really ready for the sunshine!
Preparing For Sunshine; Getting Rid Of Clouds
By Taking Out The Subconscious Garbage
That black mark showing through the paint
is similar to an "imprint" on your subconscious
mind that holds you back from your goals. Imprints
are simply ideas that you formed sometime in
your life, and became imbedded, or imprinted
upon your subconscious mind. You can be imprinted
with new ideas or suggestions at any time. If
you witnessed something traumatic; an accident
involving a loved one for example; you might
see the incident over and over in your mind,
until your mind has accepted it as a fact. This
fact might be that people you love get injured.
You may have experienced abuse, or have been
abandoned by a parent as a child, or even as
an adult by a spouse. You might go on to develop
relationship difficulties, and not even know
the reason - causing you to overeat, take drugs,
drink, or smoke. Negative imprints can hinder
success in any area, (including losing weight,
or stopping smoking) and are the reason for
self-medication. They are, simply put, subconscious
garbage; your own personal cloud of doom that
effects everything that you do. Good and bad
cannot exist in nature simultaneously, it is
called cognitive dissidence. If you are miserable,
you feel the opposite of being happy. If you
want the good, you must first get rid of the
bad. Get rid of the clouds, and "take out the
garbage"! Bad habits were formed at futile attempt
to create security, but good habits are more
secure than bad ones. It stands to reason then,
if you want to be happy, feel secure and have
peace of mind, (not to mention, be healthier!)
there is something you have to do; you simply
must get rid of negative habits for once and
for all!
Eliminating Sabotage
Your imprints have created a sort of world along
with an inner dialog; the conversations that you
have with yourself everyday that define who and
what you are. Another name for this world you
have created is "Personal Paradigm." This inner
dialog can sabotage your best efforts of behavior
modification. Sometimes your inner dialog can
be reprogrammed by using uplifting, ego-strengthening
suggestions during hypnosis. At times, however,
more work is needed. There are many ways to release
the influence of the past in your present life.
Age Regression Therapy is one way. This involves
becoming hypnotized, and being asked to go back
to a time in your life when the problem was first
observed. With your permission, those memories
can be changed. New, positive memories will replace
the old, harmful ones. For example, someone who
was abused by their father could create a loving
and attentive father with memories of a healthy
relationship, rather than a destructive one. You,
of course, will always be aware that this is  a creation of your mind; one that you chose. In
Past Lives Therapy, you travel back to a previous
life. This therapy can be very useful. During
one session, a man with unexplained, non-organic
pain went back to a time when he suffered gunshot
wounds during the Civil War. When he emerged,
the pain was gone! A woman felt a sort of "strange
feeling that someone is touching my hair" during
differant times during the day. She found that
in one life an old woman stroked her head as she
lie in her lap. In every life, she felt the same
sensation, and felt that it meant the woman was
always with her. A young man was thinking about
having an affair, but in another life he committed
suicide, following his mistress. Since he already
felt how painful the experience was for all, he
did not go on to have an affair in his present
life. These stories are not unusual. Many people,
like the man with pain, realize that they do not
have to repeat the behavior that may have began
in another life. The quote, "Those who do not
remember the past are doomed to repeat it" may
apply to our own lives in a very real way.
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